I’m probably about to step in it in a really big way… But this is about the only way I can think of to explain the situation.
When I married my wife she was a blond. For the purpose of this discussion we’ll use this color to signify blond:
Over the years she’s taken her hair back to her natural color, more of a brunette color, for that color I’ll use this to illustrate:
There were many reasons for this. (1) The expense of going and getting her hair done all the time. There were times when we simply couldn’t afford it. (2) She wasn’t happy with the person doing it, and (3) I can’t remember the other reasons but it seems to me there were more than two reasons.
In any event, I love my wife no matter what, but if I had a preference I’d prefer the blond color and she knows that. I also prefer her to have longer hair. Those are my preferences. It’s just the way I am. She’s always had longer hair until a few years ago. She cut it short and I’ve been living with it ever since.
She keeps teasing me by growing it out some, then she’ll go get a couple inches cut off and it drives me nuts. We agreed in the past that shorter hair was a good idea because of all the things she needed to do and the time it takes to take care of long hair, etc, etc. I can agree with that. Since I now wear my hair shorter than she would *like*. But it’s easier for me in the morning. I think she also did this when Maria was a baby. I’m sure she’ll correct me if I’m wrong in that statement, but I’m getting off subject here.
The bottom line is I prefer her to have long blond hair. Again it’s a preference, not a requirement. But it’s one of those things, where if you aren’t going to ever change it, then don’t ask me what I prefer…
A couple days ago she started telling me how Molly was going to get a perm, and that she had found this guy she was going to let color her hair.
So I start thinking: and 🙂
Today she went and got it cut and colored but what she came home with was: not from
Is it lighter? Well I guess technically it is. It’s also shorter, by a little bit. To me this is all going in the wrong direction but for crying out loud, if you’re going to pay someone to put color in your hair have him put some color in.
I don’t think you pay for the color by the amount used do ya? Even if you do how much more could it be to go from to ?? $20 ?? You’re already there, that’s like going to the buffet and only getting a salad. Somebody please explain this to me.
Then when you look at them, and say, it’s not really any lighter, which to a Man and is still a brunette. You just get beat up.
I noticed the difference, I noticed it was insignificant, and I noticed it was shorter. You can’t tell me a guy *cut* your hair and it’s not shorter. That’s simply impossible. Cut in itself implies that it’s shorter.
This is just another one of those no-win husband situations. You’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t.
If I don’t say anything I’m a no-good lousy person for not noticing. If I just smile and say “Oh, you got your hair cut, and colored” she’ll know right away I don’t like it. If I say, “Wow honey that looks great”, I’m lying, and she’ll know that too. And finally, you try to be honest, try to let her know, that isn’t what you had in mind and the world stops.
You just can’t win.